death, Grief, healing, Letting Go

This Broke My Heart. Please Read & Share & Remember This Incredible Moment Is All We’ve Got.

June 8, 2014

I just got this email and my heart is breaking. I met Tiana when she came to my April Dallas workshop.

We’ve got to be here now, guys. Nothing is guaranteed. Ever!

We all know this. We know it but we forget sometimes, don’t we? I do. That something can just happen in the blink of an eye and like that- all is changed. I want Tiana to feel that a million people are wrapping their arms around her. I believe in the power of social media. For things like this. She will be checking this and reading the messages to her. Let’s do this. Leave her comments and share this please.

Also: go hug someone you love a little longer. Say I love you.

Please post a note for her below as she will read it. This was the email she sent me this afternoon, shared with permission:
“My name is Tiana Harris. I was in dallas, came from Oklahoma. We met in the parking lot. I lost my husband last week in a car accident. He rolled his jeep on his way to work. Just an ordinary day and then the wind stopped blowing. It’s Oklahoma, it never stops. It was still for three stagnate stifling days. I swear he took it with him. He was a Gemini after all. This is so confusing, there’s this extreme sense of emptiness and loss. I feel it with every breath. Every time I walk into a room I expect to see him, or to hear his voice. I stand at the sink and anticipate his hands or lips on my neck. But it doesn’t come and it’s not going to. Through this tragedy I’ve realized what an amazingly beautiful tribe I have built for myself. The outpouring of love has been completely overwhelming in the best possible way. Thank you for your inspiration. I’m finding my feet and I’m still beauty hunting. I appreciate your writing, I appreciate your rawness. Thank you for sharing yourself. Love, T”


*You can also post a comment for her on my Facebook page under this picture.







Jennifer Pastiloff is the founder of The Manifest-Station. She fiercely believes in the power of a tribe. Let’s show Tiana what love is RIGHT NOW.

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  • Reply icanseealotoflifeinyou June 8, 2014 at 6:54 pm

    I’m thinking of you and holding you close in my heart. You aren’t alone, Tiana. Xo

  • Reply Jennifer K. June 8, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    Such beautiful smiles. We have never met yet my heart aches so much for you. I am so very sorry for your loss, Tiana. I wish I had better words of comfort. <3

  • Reply Tara June 8, 2014 at 7:21 pm

    Hugging you with love. I surround your heart with pillows and soft materials to catch your tears. Sending you love…

  • Reply Janie June 8, 2014 at 7:51 pm

    Tiana …. you will never be alone ….. he is with you, watching you, wrapping his arms around you, whispering in your ear …. listen for him …… there will be a new normal, but he will always be a part of you ….. look at the night sky, find a star and reach out and grab it …. it’s him letting you know he will always be there. Sending you warm, healing hugs ……

  • Reply The Red Hare [writes] June 8, 2014 at 7:58 pm

    A friend shared your link, this letter, your story. We hold you in our hearts, and picture your heart, and his, happy, healed, and given time to do so. Breathe when you cannot. We send you Love. OX

  • Reply sallyj48 June 8, 2014 at 8:03 pm

    We are the sum of our experiences and you are fortunate to have experienced love. This love makes you more than before. The universe loves you.

  • Reply Ella June 8, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    Tiana… my broken heart wants so much to scoop you in my arms and hold you and your broken heart… and just breathe together.. this is what happens to this tribe.. the tribe of the shattered hearts ALL OF US that have experienced this f*ing senselessness of loss… The ones who have to choose to breath and breath we do… it is so soon and your heart your pain are so raw… The only words of comfort I can offer you… I will hold you in the light.. as we all make mosaics beautiful glorious mosaics out of the shattered pieces of our hearts. Sending you so much love and light.

  • Reply Anna June 9, 2014 at 2:26 am

    Dear Tiana – this is a horrible tragedy. My husband travels all the time (in fact just got home 4 hours ago from overseas flight) I think to myself, ‘how can I live without him ‘ and just the thought sends me into a black hole. Reading your story made me so sad. I pray you find the strength and courage to carry on each day and have gratitude for your blessings. It’s funny how the imprint of life on the daily leaves us with ‘Still expecting that kiss, the dog barking as soon as they get home, etc. and it doesn’t happen. It’s like suspended animation. Waiting.
    Wish I could send you a big hug. You are young and have your whole life ahead. Be strong. Pray. And he is watching over you now. Peace, love & light ❤️ Anna

  • Reply Sheri June 9, 2014 at 2:44 am

    xo, Tianna, xo.

  • Reply Laurène June 9, 2014 at 3:03 am

    Dear Tiana, I’m sending you waves of hugs and positive thoughts from Egypt. You are a strong woman and you’re surrounded by love and joy. May you’ll find peace and beauty wherever you go…

  • Reply Jean June 9, 2014 at 5:13 am


    I am sending thoughts and prayers your way. You and your husband are absolutely beautiful.

    All who know you will come in closer like tug boats to cushion you and guide you through your grief. That’s the one thing I’ve learned about grief.

    I wish you strength, you dear young person.



  • Reply Daniella June 9, 2014 at 6:21 am

    Dear Tiana, within this msg is love I hope it warms ur heart. My sincere wish for u is that u are comforted by the memory of the soft embrace the kiss on the neck the warm whispers .
    He is with u darling always will be.
    The lump in ur heart that aching pain it subsides, yet still u will never let it go nor ever completely want to….it’s apart of u every part of it.
    Know the day will come and u will smile again really smile and not just for a Moment before returning to the emptiness a real smile and Tiana know in that moment he smiles for you .
    I wish u ease and strength snd love to surround u in the next part of your journey xxxx

  • Reply barbarapotter June 9, 2014 at 8:01 am

    So much love to you.

  • Reply K June 9, 2014 at 8:41 am


    By a twist of fate, my friend Bryan posted something about Jen last fall. I started following her writing as well. Then on the morning of Sept. 24, 2013, my daughter’s ninth birthday, we received a call that my mother was being rushed to the E.R. She had a brain tumor. In a mere nine and a half weeks, two days shy of my birthday, on December 2, 2013, we lost her.

    Here I sit, six months out, and each day is different. Some days I still feel trapped inside the waves of grief tumbling head over foot unable to fight my way to the surface. Others are more serene, I can float a while, I am able to find my breath and see the beauty in the sunshine again.

    I miss her at the very core of my being and still feel completely numbed by the idea that she has passed on, through this life.

    May you be gentle and kind to yourself as you grieve. There is no right or wrong way to go about it.

    Love & light to you.

  • Reply Karen June 9, 2014 at 10:08 am

    Sending you a heartfelt hug. So sorry. We are all with you.

  • Reply segmation June 9, 2014 at 11:07 am

    Very heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing this.

  • Reply Snowflake33 June 9, 2014 at 12:51 pm

    Let your community – me, we, take away some of the pain with “virtual” hugs, so that your heart will lighten and you will be able to feel all the joys and love from your experience in this world together with your husband. Peace and love to you.

  • Reply Kristi June 17, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    Tiana, I have panic attacks worrying that this terrible nightmare you are living will happen to me. I can only imagine the feeilngs you are going through, I am crying with sadness for you and your loss. Email me, I have time to write, I have time to talk, I have time to listen to you if you need it, if you want it. I am saying prayers for you, with you, hoping you can find a bright moment, if only one moment, soon.I am so sorry you have to go through this. My heart breaks

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