By Denise Boehler
Emotional truths that really hurt.
When I came to the end of a very long path of healing from divorce, I made peace. With myself, my former husband, my marriage. Following is a short story to share, for all women going through such challenging transformation, in the hopes that it may inform and relate—that the path toward emotional wholeness is never traveled in solitude.
Your marriage is finally over. Big breath. Let it out. Take another. Viscerally, you now get this one in your bones. Until now, you held on, held out, hope. That the two of you might reconcile. After the healing, after some time passed. But you now feel, in the depth of your bones, why your marriage broke apart in the first place. It wasn’t because he was awful and you were spoiled. Or that he didn’t love you or you were too lonely. It was that your lives together were no longer compatible. Your life together was irreconcilable. It’s why they created the option on the form for a petition for dissolution of marriage: irreconcilable differences.
They weren’t kidding. Continue Reading…