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Forgiveness, Hearing Loss, Inspiration

Love Yourself, Accept Yourself, Forgive Yourself

March 7, 2012

“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia 

You mean I am a source of many wonderful things?

Yes. Actually you are. Own up to it.

Leo has it right.

1. Love yourself.

Despite all the things that you think may be terribly wrong with you, love yourselfLove yourself.

Tattoo it on your brain.

I can think of so many reasons why you should love yourself, but here’s just one: It is incredibly dull and uninspiring to be around people who do not love themselves.

I spent many years being anorexic and feeling like I was a monster. I’m sure I was not much fun to be around and I also know that I didn’t book any of the acting jobs I was trying to land. It is very challenging to hire someone or love someone who fights you by holding up a mirror of hatred toward themselves.

Here’s my challenge for you today: Take a picture of your face and remember that in 10 years time you will be amazed at how gorgeous you were. Be amazed now.

Identify something about you that you may not adore and find a way to at least laugh at it or like it, even a little bit.

I have profound hearing loss; in fact, I am almost deaf and wear hearing aids. I have ringing in my ears 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Does it drive me mad most days? Yes. However, it is here to stay, and I have learned that I can make light of it or sit home and feel sorry for myself because I am missing out on what feels like everything.

Either way the choice is mine to make. I have also learned that because of my hearing loss, my other senses are highly attuned. I am more compassionate because of it. I am a healer.

I have turned something I don’t necessarily “love” having into another piece in the puzzle of me, and part of why I love that puzzle.

Instead of thinking “I am an incomplete human being because I can’t hear perfectly,” I think “I am an incredible human being with a profound sense of touch and understanding and a huge capacity for love. I am also awesome at reading lips. So there.”

What can you love about yourself today that you may have struggled with before?

Can you find a way to cultivate the opposite? According to Pantajali’s Yoga Sutra 2.33, “When the mind is disturbed by improper thoughts constant pondering over the opposites is the remedy.”

2. Forgive yourself.

I lead a meditation in my workshops on forgiveness, and every time, without fail, people start crying. Almost everyone in the room will have at least shed a tear. This leads me to believe that we are all indeed connected, a union—which is what the word Yoga means.

The human experience is so similar, and yes, I know the details are vastly different, and that the devil lies in the details, but, we still share the same weight on our shoulders. That weight would be diminished if we chose to forgive instead of harboring guilt or anger.

People cry most in my workshops when we do the meditation on forgiving yourself. Most likely it’s because we are hardest on ourselves.

What can you forgive yourself for today?

I forgive myself for saying “I hate you” to my father right before he died when I was eight years old. I carried it around for many years and let it color my life a dark airless color.

I forgive myself for not being perfect.

This shift occurred was when I was finally able to let go of my eating disorder. We often hold ourselves to impossible standards and end up feeling bad.

Ask yourself honestly, “What can I forgive myself for?” 

Sometimes it takes simply saying it aloud or writing it down to realize that you actually no longer need to bear the brunt of it.

3. Be good to yourself. Do things that you inspire you daily.

Make a list. Grab your iPad or your notepad or even your hand and draw up a list of things you can do today to make you feel good.

Keep adding to the list. Forgive yourself if you skip a couple and love yourself no matter how long or short the list is and how much you accomplish on it.

You will not be graded or tested on this list.

My list involves a lot of laughing.  My “Feel Good” list also has: my yoga practice, teaching yoga classes, writing, a long leisurely dinner with friends, having a great glass of wine, staying up all night reading a book I cannot put down, being with kids who have special needs and teaching them yoga, poetry, Modern Family, skyping with my nephews, and the list goes on.

Do something every single day that makes you feel good, whether it is changing your thought patterns or taking a bath while reading a magazine in the tub.

Maybe it’s getting an extra hour of sleep or staying up late and watching Pretty Woman for the 50th time.

Pleasure and joy are highly underrated and beating ourselves, up highly overrated. Flip it! Cultivate the opposite.

One of my main rules as a yoga teacher is that if you fall, you must laugh and take down your neighbor, which cultivates a sense of humor, and hopefully a little joy. You need at least a little joy daily. Sprinkle it on your cereal, slip it in your downward facing dog, add it to your pinot noir.

Accept that you are indeed the source of many wonderful things. If you need help remembering what they are from time to time, keep making your feel good lists. Keep coming back to the love that is inherently yours. It is your birthright. And so it is.

Whatever it takes. Just do it.

A student told me after she returned from my July Ojai retreat that she wanted to live her life every day as if she was still on the retreat. And why shouldn’t she? What a revelation! What a revolution of the mind. 

Be good to yourself. You will train other people to do the same.

And guess what? If they aren’t good to you, you will still have your old standby who is always good to you: YOU. Pretty much what matters most at the end of the day. You being good to you. The rest will follow.

Remember the 90’s En Vogue song, with the lyrics “Free your mind, the rest will follow”?

It will. So get up and dance.

***This originally appeared on the Tiny Buddha site.

Birthday, Prader Willi Syndrome

My Birthday Request.

December 12, 2011

Dear Manifesters,

It is my birthday today and I can safely say it is the best birthday I have ever had! What would complete it is if you supported PWS research and bought a Manifestation shirt or bracelet!

My latest TinyBuddha piece got published today, of all days! Here it is.

It is called “The Future is Completely Open” and along with GMA, it is an incredible way to celebrate my birthday! (http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-future-is-completely-open/)

Click this icon to read my birthday post on TinyBuddha.

I had Good Morning America on my vision board and yesterday we filmed my segment at Equinox South Bay during my karaoke yoga class. My interview is later today. Yes, I visualized it and it happened.

I acted AS IF.

 

A picture of my vision board that I made at my Manifestation Ojai retreat in September. See Good Morning America at bottom? (GMA)

It will air Dec 26th or 27th. I tell you as a reminder that you can manifest anything you put your attention on.

Deem yourself worthy to receive. (Took me a long time to get this one, folks. But I got it now. I am worthy!)

Thank you Wayne Dyer for teaching me that years ago! I look forward to teaching yoga at your conferences, my mentor!

All I want for my birthday is that you buy a Manifestation t-shirt or at least share the link. All money is going to charity for Prader Willi Syndrome, a rare genetic disorder my nephew has, and also to research for Tay Sachs (a fatal disease my friend Emily’s baby Ronan has.) Please consider buying or at the very least sharing and learning what these disorders/diseases are. I sent my first $500 check into the Foundation for Prader Willi Research last week and it felt so good.

You will notice on the Good Morning America segment that I am wearing a Manifestation tank and so is Cameron Mathison. Many of the class did as well and everyone wore their Manifestation bracelet. The bracelets are by donation, with a minimum of $3.

Here is link for bracelets.

Lego men manifest too! You can also get them from me in my public classes. Please post a picture of yourself wearing your bracelet declaring what you are manifestinh!

 

Here is link for tees and tanks. Please feel free to email me with questions and of course, we can ship them. Please specify if you want a tee or a tank in the message. http://www.jenniferpastiloff.com/PayPal.html 

 

My client and friend Alex Albrecht manifests with the gold shovel he got when he was on Jimmy Fallon a couple weeks ago. (Check out Alex's Voltron short that he manifested!)

Renowned yoga teacher Tamal Dodge manifests at The Yoga Collective in Santa Monica.

 

GMA correspondent and actor Cameron Mathison and I wear our Manifestation gear.

 

Thank you all for being a part of my life.

Keep manifesting your life,

one laugh at at time.

@manifestyogajen

ps, I am teaching a special birthday yoga class tonight at The Yoga Collective in Santa Monica. Feel free to join us at 8 pm. I will bring shirts and bracelets and a big hug for you.

Guest Posts, Inspiration

TinyBuddha

November 2, 2011

Just wanted to send a link to my article that went up today on TinyBuddha, a website that I adore. I am so excited about this so please feel free to share. I love all of you, dear Manifesters. Keep on laughing, keep on Manifesting. Magic is waiting.

Magic is everywhere.

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/love-yourself-accept-yourself-forgive-yourself/

Keep your eyes peeled for big things happening. In your life, in mine. All around.

And if you did not read yesterday’s guest post by the Flying Yogini, get to it! It is beautiful and I am honored to have it published on my site.

Manifesting your life,

One Laugh at a Time,

ManifestYogaJen

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