By Ella Wilson.
1. Birth
Every time in my life that I have had the opportunity – that is to say I have been in the presence of a huge coming or going or leaving or starting, a massive adding on or taking away – every time I have had the chance to step out, to leave behind, to shed, to transform, to butterfly, to snake – every time I could have showered off the detritus of some time in my life that lay heavy on my skin. Every time I could have grown, instead I wet-toweled.
2. Starting school
Here is how you wet-towel. You take the thing you might have stepped out of, a skin, a time, a loss, a tiny pair of pants, a hit in the face. You take that thing and you wrap yourself in it.
3. Suicide attempt age 12
You shiver at first because the wet towel makes you cold. The weight of it makes you slow. After a few days you start to smell old and nothing seems like a very good idea.
4. Puberty
Shame is sticky and the antidote to transformation.
5. Losing my virginity
Shame tells you to hide, unfortunately the tools it gives you for hiding promote shame on shame. Shameless self promotion.
6. Leaving school
When you would rather not be seen it is preferable to hide in anything you can find.
7. Leaving home
8. Getting a job
9. My father dying
When my father died I did not notice. This is not because I was not paying attention exactly, in fact I paid so much attention, maybe too much. Nursing him from when I was 13 to 22. But something can become normal, like someone being ill, like thinking someone won’t really die. So I slept on his hospital floor for months. I swabbed his throat with little pink sponges. I knew the nurses names. He died. I wanted to stay on the floor. I wasn’t ready not to have a father. I wore his clothes. I didn’t cry. I did not become fatherless. I just became personless.
10. Moving to America
11. Being hospitalized for anorexia
12. Getting married Continue Reading…
