Guest Posts, healing, love

Don’t Miss The Roses.

October 9, 2012

By Jen Pastiloff

Listen up. You love someone? Tell them. You want to see someone? See them. You want to do something? Do it. Stop making excuses.
A couple months ago one of my readers Rose Alma posted on my page that she was in the hospital after having had a double lung transplant and could I come visit her while I was in Atlanta? Naturally, a million excuses came up as to why that would be hard. (I was only there for the weekend. I didn’t have a car. I was busy leading a workshop and bla bla bla.)
I told my excuses to “buzz off” and I went. I went and my life was changed. That’s all it took. Meeting that sweet little light was all I needed to make a huge difference in my life. A huge remarkable difference. Now, had I not gone to see her because of x, y or z? Well, she would have died today and I would have never known how so much joy could emanate from a tiny sick little body. I would never have understood, I mean REALLY really understood what it meant to be gracious in the face of uncertainty, in the face of possible death. I would never have had my life touched. Nor would my sister or my young nephew. Rosie passed away today due to complications from cystic fibrosis and I am heartbroken but I am grateful I had that time with her. I experienced that connection. I could have easily have not. I could have easily said “I am too busy” because, let’s face it, we are all busy. We all have too much to do.
But here’s the thing: nothing is guaranteed. So if you want something, go get it. If you love someone, show them. If you think you are owed anything beyond this moment, you are in for a wake up call of the hardest kind. The truest wake up call there is. And that is that there are no guarantees. That the time is now. That if we spend our lives saying “I can’t” or “I am too busy” we are missing the beauty. We are missing the roses.

I love you Rose Alma. RIP

Below is a guest post Rosie did in October on The Manifest-Station….

The Hunt is Over, Happiness is Yours by Rose Alma

Connect with Rosie by clicking photo.

What is happiness? If I may, I will tell you what it is not. Happiness is not external. It is not an object that we must perpetually chase after. The world has often taught us that happiness is in the material. That we have to pay for it: sacrifice our money and our time, our sanity and our soul to find it. But happiness is something so much more. Something so much deeper, and yet so simple and close. It is something dear and unique to wonderful you.

Happiness is within you. Just as true peace and happiness is already within all beings. We all have the capacity to discover it and genuinely feel it. And it is time you knew this beautiful truth.

If you are having trouble believing this, I ask you to honestly examine all the aspects that currently make up your life. Are you really freeing yourself from the things that do not positively serve you? While you quietly think this over, allow me to explain where I am coming from:

Personally, I am on a neverending journey to expand my consciousness. My struggles with my health, and my journey through the beginning stages of the transplant experience, have been the primary forces that have launched me into this new phase of my life. And I am grateful for the thrust they have given me into genuinely examining who I am as a living being, where I am going, and what ultimately means the most in my life and in this world. The majority of what I read and listen to is all centered around these very subjects: truth, understanding, transformation, and love. All of it intended to help my overall well-being, and to expand my heart and consciousness. Over the last 50+ days, I’ve also dedicated myself to daily meditation. And this in itself has added a whole new depth to my personal journey. Along the way, I have learned so much about myself and about the world (and I continue to). Although I never want to tell others how to live, the vibrancy, energy, and love that is unfolding within me can’t help but extend out to others – to all the beautiful souls who may be able to learn something with me on this journey.

So here are some practices that may help us come closer to our true happiness:

1) Release. We must let go of anything in life that causes us stress or negativity. These elements limit our potential for exploring our true selves and finding our authentic happiness. Though this process of letting go may not always be easy, in the end, we will benefit in ways we may never have imagined possible. So let us release that which no longer serves us.

2) Embrace. One of the hardest practices yet, which I am continuously working on, is embracing change. Because it is an inevitable force; and there is much to gain when we open our arms to change. In what I have been reading and meditating on, they mention that when positive changes come into our lives (job promotion, new baby) we generally welcome the new chapter. But when something unexpected happens – something that may be considered a loss rather than a gain – we close ourselves off to it or resist (like job loss, divorce, moving away). They say that we should pause in those moments of stress or sadness over the unexpected change, and be open to the idea that though this change is hard or not exactly what we wanted, there could be something positive to come of it in the end. Even if we can’t see or predict what it might be. This simple act of opening our mind and heart could make a world of difference in how that change impacts our lives. If we can just continually work, in those moments of struggle or despair, to be open to the light at the other side, it will make the journey through the change so much more beautiful.

3) Explore. Once we have begun to release what does not serve us, and embrace the coming changes of our lives, we are ready to open our hearts and minds to the idea of exploring new sides of our being. We need to seek out new experiences and people who will help us better know and understand our truest self. We must try things that feel both naturally interesting to us, and things that seem outside our comfort zone. (As long as they are safe and healthy.) Pushing ourselves to break past self-imposed barriers, and try things that we might never do otherwise, will allow us to blossom authentically and beautifully. Take up new hobbies, travel, make new friends, write a novel, learn a new language, volunteer at a shelter. We have to learn to step outside the mold we live in – that is, the person that we think we have to be – and start learning to become who we were born to be. And only we, as individuals, can know who that beautiful being is and feel when we are one with them.

4) Give. In order to fully understand and love ourselves, we must learn to step outside ourselves. Look beyond just our needs and desires, and consider the life and world around us. We must realize that there is a little piece of us in everyone, all the world around. And that we should give to all those beautiful souls. Some people need basic necessities, some need guidance, some need just an extra ounce of love, and some could be changed simply by the gentle power of a genuine smile. We must willingly give of ourselves, in whatever ways we can manage. Volunteer at places that meet our interests, help friends in need, be loving towards family, be kind to strangers and children, and always greet a person with a loving heart and kind smile. We can never give too much. And every time we do give, it adds more love to the world around.
5) LOVE. Love is the ultimate answer to all questions in life. It may take time to realize this, and there may be times in life when we bury this truth so deep in the dirt. But it is always there. Once we realize that love is there – even in the dirt, even in the darkness, even in the loneliness and despair – life will be forever changed. We will be forever changed. Time, distance, and differences have no hold on love. It travels everywhere and permeates everything. All we have to do is open our hearts and minds to this beautiful truth. And we must choose, every day, every moment, to live a life of love. Even when times are dark. Especially when times are dark. Because love still lives in the dark. It lives even there, so that we may grab hold of it when everything else falls away. Love is our light post. And it will show us the way to the other side.
These loving practices are what I am learning along my great journey in life. I wanted to share them with you, and hopefully illustrate how I feel you can learn with me. I am not one to tell others how to live, but please try to allow these ideas into your heart. Know that happiness is already within you, change doesn’t have to seem so daunting, and love is always around you and within you. You deserve to be free of anything in life that places negativity on you. And you deserve to give yourself a fair chance at exploring all the possibilities that the world and life have to offer. I want only for you to realize the depth of potential in you, and for you to know that the pathway to greater freedom – whether external or internal – just takes one step at a time.

Our lives and circumstances may be vastly different. But, we are one.

Let us walk together on this path to greater consciousness, happiness, and love.

Rose Alma is a 25-year-old Cystic Fibrosis patient on the transplant list for double-lungs. Ten years of exacerbations and IV treatments eventually lowered her lung function post-college. She has been listed at University of Alabama for almost two years, and is presently trying to get double-listed at Emory in Atlanta. An artist and poet, Rose also has a Baccalaureate in Education. Though she always dreamt of teaching preschool, her health has driven her to explore new realms. She has created short films, music, poetry, and also enjoys vegan cooking and meditation. Post-transplant she hopes to practice yoga, regularly volunteer in her community, and become a Certified Holistic Life Coach. 
Visit her Facebook, or her website We are one.
 
 
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March 13 NYC! A 90 minute class for women, girls and non-gender conforming folks (we encourage teens 16 and up) and all levels that will combine flow yoga, meditation, empowerment exercises, connection and maybe, just maybe, a dance party. This will be a class to remind you that you are enough and that you are a badass. It will be fun and empowering and you need no yoga experience: just be a human being. Let’s get into our bodies and move! Be warned: This will be more than just a basic asana class. It will be a soul-shifting, eye-opening, life-changing experience. Come see why Jen Pastiloff travels around the world and sells out every workshop she does in every city. This will be her last class before she has her baby so sign up soon. Follow her on instagram at @jenpastiloff and @girlpoweryouareenough.
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  • Reply barbarapotter October 9, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    Such a beautiful post. Thank you for writing this Rose and Jen for sharing with the world.

  • Reply Rose Alma October 9, 2012 at 2:26 pm

    Hello Barbara! Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts! (And yes, Jen is quite a generous and beautiful soul.)

    If you’d like to connect with me, click the image above, or visit my website at http://weareone-wearelove.blogspot.com

    Peace and love to you!

  • Reply Gene Cuticchia October 9, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    What a beautiful tribute to life, the journey of LOVE. With the love and inspiration of my wife, Esther, I have followed that path and have found peace beyond measure. You, too, willfind that and more. You are an inspiration. Knowing and loving you is an everlasting presence of the capacity of the human spirit. I thank you and pledge my continued love nd support. Uncle Gene

    • Reply Rose Alma October 9, 2012 at 4:59 pm

      Dearest Uncle Gene, thank you for your beautifully sweet words. They brought tears to my eyes. I am honored and grateful to share this journey of love and life with you, and with all the beautiful souls who choose to take part. Life is beautiful, every day is a gift, and every person I get to share it with makes it all the richer. So much light and love to you, and to all. ♥

  • Reply Mary Jo October 9, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    Such wisdom from someone less than 1/2 my age: “We can never give too much. And every time we do give, it adds more love to the world around.” Love this article. Love, love, love it! You make my day brighter, Rosie. Thank you for sharing this with me. Love, Mary Jo

    • Reply Rose Alma October 9, 2012 at 5:38 pm

      Thank YOU, Mary Jo! It is the love and kindness of beautiful souls like you (and all those who share such positivity and light) that brighten MY days, strengthen my spirit, and add love to this beautiful world we all live in. Much much love to you. ♥

  • Reply Trivedi Effect October 10, 2012 at 12:12 pm

    Rose, I totally agree with all your points whole heartedly, especially #4 and #5. Giving and loving are so very important to personal happiness. Great read. Thanks.

    • Reply Rose Alma October 10, 2012 at 3:14 pm

      Thank you so much, friend! Yes, to give and to love are two of the greatest pleasures in life. I am so honored that we can bond through this shared belief. Much peace and love to you. ♥

  • Reply Madeline October 10, 2012 at 6:01 pm

    Bravo! This post is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you so much!

    • Reply Rose Alma October 10, 2012 at 7:38 pm

      Thank YOU, dear Madeline! That means so much! I am so very happy to help, in whatever way I can. 🙂 Peace and love to you. ♥

  • Reply Cassie October 10, 2012 at 10:35 pm

    Rose, you are truly an inspiration! I have two beautiful, inside and out, little girls that have CF. Izzy is 4, and Brooklyn will be 3 in December. I wholeheartedly pray that they also have this outcome on life. You have a beautiful soul, and thank you for sharing it with the rest of us!

    • Reply Rose Alma October 11, 2012 at 10:05 am

      Beautiful Cassie, THANK YOU for your incredibly sweet words! With a loving, compassion, positive mother like you, I am sure that darling Izzy and Brooklyn will grow to be strong and passionate women. I am honored to know of you and the two of them. My light, strength, and love is always with you three. Thank you SO much for writing. And please keep in touch via my Facebook link above (click on the picture), or my website http://weareone-wearelove.blogspot.com

      I wish you so much love and light. Infinite peace and love. ♥

  • Reply Live From The Hospital in Atlanta. Being Rosie. Video. | The Manifest-Station April 28, 2013 at 7:37 am

    […] it wasn’t successful but we know the next transplant will be a  match. Rosie did a guest post here on my blog back in October which I am linking here  in case you missed […]

  • Reply JenPastiloff June 17, 2013 at 6:29 pm

    Reblogged this on The Manifest-Station and commented:

    Reblogging Rosie’s guest post. She died today. I added a note at the top. Please read and share. Love you guys xo jen
    ps am having a cystic fibrosis fundraiser in August with 2 other yoga teachers so stay tuned.

  • Reply knititwrite123 June 17, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    What an amazing writer Rose was! And what powerful lessons she has left us. A blessing indeed.

  • Reply Walking 4 Air June 18, 2013 at 7:36 am

    What an absolutely beautiful post by Rosie and what a wonderful tribute you have written to her. I lost my best friend to Cystic Fibrosis in 1998, she taught me how to live my life to the fullest and now today I climb ridiculously high mountains in her honour, while raising awareness and funds to find a cure for CF.

  • Reply Lynn Hasselberger June 18, 2013 at 12:31 pm

    Wow.

  • Reply You Can Have This. | The Manifest-Station August 10, 2014 at 4:06 pm

    […] She’d written a guest post for the site and followed me on Facebook. In April of 2013, she saw I was coming to Atlanta to do a workshop and sent me an email. It said: […]

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