Guest Posts, Grief, Pets

What I Think About My Dog’s Death

August 26, 2016

By John Coleman

He who understands everything about his subject cannot write it. I write as much to discover as to explain. —Arthur Miller

Two days ago at this time, wife Kathy and I sat in our living room, not watching whatever cooking program was on television. Son Micah was in the attic having a go at his electric drum set.

When I got down to the last bite of my cold breakfast sandwich, I said, “I was just going to give this to Watson.”

But rigor mortis was setting in about this time, our old buddy having received the injections that cemented our decision to euthanize him. The first shot made him snore deep in his throat. The second killed him almost immediately. Once the syringe of blue pentobarbital started to empty, I wondered how often pet owners say, “Hey, stop, wait, I changed my mind.”

A couple notes on Watty, a black lab-terrier mix:

  • He was a deeply good soul that let out window shattering barks at any potential threats. Sometimes he made a fuss to stay in good protective form or lift boredom with a little make believe. He was a Don Quixote among dogs.
  • He had abnormal restraint in taking treats. Even grizzle from a T-bone steak warranted inspection. In twelve years I don’t think Watson ever nipped a giving hand.
  • In spite of his many loveable qualities, I always believed he possessed all the intelligence of a bag of hair.
  • He loved to play fetch, but never got the hang of catch. It was as if he couldn’t understand why anybody would toss a piece of hotdog or a rubber ball at his mouth.
  • During the last year, most of Watty’s brain activity was devoted to eating around the medicine we buried in his food. I think he enjoyed leaving half-dissolved pills next to his dog dish. A $5 pill crusher fixed the problem so quickly I felt like a putz for not buying one earlier, but watching this dog’s decline clouded my mind.

In the end, love helped the Coleman family see clearly. The fatty tumor on Watson’s side grew over eighteen months from a gelatinous orange to a solid bowling ball. I joked darkly that he needed a side-car to support that thing. His left back leg assumed a weird angle to compensate for the weight. In fact, he had tumors everywhere, the most punishing one in his sinuses: nose bleeds, constant snorting, and finally, a bulge on his forehead.

When we let him out to the latrine, he concluded his errand by flopping down on the snow. Only the promise of a treat could get him to struggle to his feet and lumber inside.

But Watty still had juice in him, which troubled my head and heart as I watched him die. His eyes were bright, as if a walk at the beach or a dollop of wet cat food might be on the way. He would still play fetch, though with an arthritic gimp.

The day before Watson died, Micah brought him a lime-green squeaky hippo. Looking at it now helps me feel less and less like putting my buddy to sleep amounted to a sucker punch. As the vet listened with the stethoscope and as Kathy pressed her lips against the softest dog ear ever and sobbed and as Micah’s shoulders rose and fell, my throat clenched with guilt.

On the way home, we all cried off and on. “A little piece of me feels like we betrayed him,” I lied—more than a little. Fortunately, the stupid hippo reasons with me. Watson loved squeaky toys, but he always had the squeaker chewed out in a few minutes. He frolicked with the hippo, but didn’t hold it between his paws and rip away. Playtime was over.

So we’ll hang onto the hippo for a while. And I’ll remember what Kathy said yesterday: “You should always leave a party when you’d like to stay a little longer.” And what Micah said on Watson’s last night: “We can’t be selfish.”

One word from my wife or son would have convinced me to let Watson go on another week or two. They are stronger and wiser than I am.

I’m still deciding what I think about the death of the Coleman family’s dog. So far I know this much:

  • We made the best decision we could, and that’s what matters most.
  • The hardest part of putting Watson down wasn’t saying goodbye to him. The hardest part was that he had no way of saying goodbye back.
  • “I love you, buddy,” I said every day, over and over, holding his face in my hands and kissing him between the eyes. He was a foundling, so I added, “I’m glad you stopped by.” And then I kissed him again: “You’re a good boy.” I never realized that this ritual was one of the best parts of my life.

Before he died, I knelt down and spoke into that sad tumor on his forehead. “Thank you, Watson,” I said. When the crying stops, I imagine that’s what will be left: gratitude.

But right now, I would give anything to hold Watty’s dear old face and look into his hopeful eyes.


John Coleman is the creator of A Napper’s Companion, a blog devoted to mindfulness and sanity. Over the last thirty years, John has published dozens of essays, poems, and short stories in The Southern Review, The Literary Review, College English, and other literary magazines. His latest book is “Your Grandmother Raised Monarchs and Other Wonders Before Your Time.


Join Jen Pastiloff in Tuscany Sep 17-24, 2016. There are 2 spaces left. This will be her only international retreat in 2016 and is her favorite retreat of the year. Email asap. More info here. Must email first to sign up.


Join founder Jen Pastiloff for a weekend retreat at Kripalu Center in Western Massachusetts Feb 19-21, 2016. Get ready to connect to your joy, manifest the life of your dreams, and tell the truth about who you are. This program is an excavation of the self, a deep and fun journey into questions such as: If I wasn’t afraid, what would I do? Who would I be if no one told me who I was? Jennifer Pastiloff, creator of Manifestation Yoga and author of the forthcoming Girl Power: You Are Enough, invites you beyond your comfort zone to explore what it means to be creative, human, and free—through writing, asana, and maybe a dance party or two! Jennifer’s focus is less on yoga postures and more on diving into life in all its unpredictable, messy beauty. Note Bring a journal, an open heart, and a sense of humor. Click the photo to sign up.

Join Jen Pastiloff at her Manifestation Workshop: On Being Human in London Oct 1st and Dallas Oct 22. Click the links above to book. No yoga experience needed- just be a human being! Bring a journal and a sense of humor. See why People Magazine did a whole feature on Jen.


Check out Jen Pastiloff in People Magazine!

Check out Jen in People Magazine!


You Might Also Like


  • Reply karen mulvaney August 26, 2016 at 7:36 am

    this one leaves me silent, reminiscing about my two dogs, their lives, how much they were loved and how much they loved us regardless, how their deaths left me as mournful as I have ever been. what a beautiful read. the only trouble with dogs is they don’t live long enough.

    thank you

  • Reply cecilia fasano August 27, 2016 at 2:06 pm

    I really really enjoyed this. I enjoyed knowing him and knowing you. Thank you.

  • Reply Barbara Potter August 30, 2016 at 11:07 pm

    You brought tears to my eyes. You put into words the love and loss of an amazing four legged buddy.

  • Leave a Reply

    This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.