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Coulda Woulda Shoulda. The DMC.

November 25, 2011

Coulda Woulda Shoulda.

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Happy Black Friday.

Bah, humbug! I like blue or red. Or magenta.

Magenta Friday! And a Happy One To Ya! I hope you are still feeling grateful and thankful and full of food.

Another brilliant poster from my friend and source of inspiration Karen Salmansohn of notsalmon.com

I wasn’t going to do a DMC today (Daily Manifestation Challenge in case you hadn’t caught on yet) but I fell upon Karen’s poster and I thought: this is too good to pass up.

I used to spend much of my life saying: I should have….. I wish I would have……. I wish I hadn’t….. I could have………

Oh? You want me to fill in the sentences?

Ok. I am down with being very honest these days.

Here is what I used to say. A lot. Old tapes, if you will.

I should have stayed in NYC and not moved to LA. I probably would be a famous writer and wear turtle necks and live in a cute apartment in the West Village and my life would be perfect.

I wish I would have realized how beautiful I was when I was younger instead of hating myself so much.

I wish I hadn’t said “I hate you” to my father right before he died. Those were the last words we spoke. Maybe he wouldn’t have died?

I could have probably been a successful actress if I had just wanted it more, or been prettier or tried harder or been skinnier or……..

Being honest is so scary but feels so good. So refreshing!

I no longer say these things. Not in my head. Not out loud. Never. (Well, mostly never. Sticking with the honesty thing here.)

I decided at some point to shift my thoughts and my beliefs and live in the present. It’s nice here. I think i will stay awhile.

For a lot of my life I lived in 1983 even when it was 2003. Sound familiar? I allowed myself to be immobilized by the past. Now that is way scarier than being honest, folks. I

Dear Manifesters, I changed my whole life by changing my thoughts and taking action in the NOW. Yes, once in a while I longingly look toward my past and wish I had done it different. Then I wake the heck up. I mean, I wouldn’t be my Manifesting Self if I hadn’t gone through exactly what I had gone through. If I hadn’t done it exactly like that. There is no “it should have been this instead of that.” There is only that. It is impossible to think there could have been a this. This or That. 

Choose one and move one.

No more Woulda, Shoulda, Coulda. Blah Blah. Seriously Manifesters, can you add your comment below? Write down where you have either made a shift and are no longer living in the ” shoulda woulda coulda” mindset or where you are going to start today?


“The Choice Is Yours! You can get with this or you can get with that. I think you’ll get with this, for this is where it’s at!”

( you hear this song a lot if you come  to my yoga classes!)

Manifesting Your Life,

One Laugh at a Time,

jen (@manifestyogajen on twitter)

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  • Reply Lizzy P November 25, 2011 at 8:51 pm

    another gem.

  • Reply ManifestYogaJen November 25, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    Thank you for reading lizzy!

  • Reply Ellena Wong November 25, 2011 at 11:54 pm

    I look back –
    But I don’t regret
    I haven’t really ever been that person to…
    It never seemed worth the effort…
    or the time..
    I heaven knows, I never really had the time.

    yes, life would be different if I went to the UK to study
    yes, life would be different if I didn’t get married to a gambler at 19 —-
    and subsequently divorced at 22.
    yes, life would be different if I chose the model route instead of the engineer
    yes, life would be different…had I not taken “the road less traveled by”

    different –
    not necessarily better…

    my journey has had it’s ups – and downs, much like every other person…
    much like yours
    reflecting can be good — to learn from – to grow – to realize one’s true self..

    I reflect – I think – …but I don’t regret.

    For it doesn’t really matter what you DO…
    What DOES matter is who you ARE – the full manifestation of your true core.
    Not the one we are given-
    Not the one we learn.
    Rather the one we are born with…

    The roles we play in society, following it’s rules and restrictions – all that means nothing. That is the “ego”.. That is the “false”.. it’s the game that we play with ourselves, and each other.
    At the end of the day – truth lies inside.
    All that matters is your consciousness – and all the wonder and miracles that IS already you.

    So my dearest Jenn… just be you – the awesome, beautiful and free manifestation of the miracle you already are.


  • Reply Sara November 26, 2011 at 1:39 am

    I can’t honestly say I’m past the Shoulda Coulda Woulda stage. Hopefully today is the first day I can put this behind me.

  • Reply LauraMortell November 26, 2011 at 3:36 am

    6 years ago when I met my husband… I knew that this is were I was to be!!! An never looked back in the past of what should or could of done different. Cause I would never change a thing… Since everything that has happened in my life brought me to this point…

  • Reply Rachel November 26, 2011 at 5:25 am

    Hmmmm….my list would be too long to post. I so feel that the should have’s ruled me forever, I still battle them, although not as much. I used to always think I should have been better, good, not so naughty and rebellious in my younger days. The one thing I always say is, if not for my past I wouldn’t have my present, the greatest gift of all, my two sons. So I say to he’ll with the shoulda, the coulda, and definitely the woulda!

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