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Sense of Self via the Coffee Counter? by Jacki Carr.

May 14, 2012

The following guest post speaks to my soul. I have known Jacki for a few years and have watched her grow into one of the most fearless and amazing women I know. I adore everything about her. Enjoy her words and then go follow her blog. She will add a little domthin’ somthin’ to your day.

Sense of Self via the Coffee Counter?

Remember the movie, You’ve Got Mail with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan?  It’s a classic.

Don’t you just love the Fall leaves, Central Park and the all too suggestive plot of a feel-good Romantic Comedy?

Me, too.

The film follows the story of two people who stumble upon one another in an AOL chatroom, remember those? There is this one scene in the movie when Tom Hanks’ character, Joe Fox is emailing Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan) about ordering his drink at Starbucks.  He speaks about the people that stand there flabbergasted with all the choices and completely unsure.  ‘Short, tall?  Lite, Dark?  Caff, decaf?  Low fat, non-fat?  He notes that people who do not know what they are doing or who they are, for only 2.95 can make six decisions at one time and get not just a cup of coffee, but an absolute defining sense of self’.  (You’ve Got Mail, 1998).

This is my absolute favorite part of the flick because I think it speaks so beautifully to our lives.

When you know what you want, you can declare it and then get out of your own way and allow the Universe to serve you.  Be it your specific coffee of choice or your future.

The mind wanders and I envision a large framed chalkboard with word choices like:

lover, courageous, powerful, enough, successful, homeowner, happy, flexible, business owner, confident, athletic, motivated, of service, complete, Mother, Father, charity, marathon runner, vacation, yoga retreat attendee…

This imaginary board hangs over a beautiful imaginary wooden counter with inspiring quotes carved into its surface and there is somehow never, ever a line.  People step up to the counter and declare their order from the chalkboard to no one behind the counter, yet everyone in the World.

Today, I would step up to the counter with courage and confidence and say:

”I will have grateful and fulfilled as a business owner serving the World through goal coaching clients in the Mountains and leading workshops via a traveling Airstream, Inc. trailer.  Thank you so much.”

And then, I would step down and rock my life with patience, love and compassion, trusting that my order has been heard, while at the same time committing that my actions will support the audacious endeavor.

Now, your turn.

Step up to the counter and declare what you really want in your big, amazing life.  Own it.  Live it.  Hell, you can yell it.  Then, move over, commit and know your order has been heard, written down and is being creatively crafted just at the right time.

You will be served.

The lovely Ms. Carr doin’ her thang.

About Jacki Carr:

Jacki Carr is a yogi, runner, goal coach, writer, ‘possibilitarian’, adventure-seeker and life lover. Seen Vespa scootering through the streets of Venice, CA, she lives a full life by the Pacific Ocean.   When not playing on the lululemon athletica playground that is her #joblove, Jacki is sharing adventures on her blog about gnarly life lessons on and off the yoga mat, an awakened reality in the beauty of vulnerability, and the real deal about gratitude.  An ultimate goal is to inspire all beings to embrace balance, be present and live a most passionate ‘rock-your-wildest-dreams-light-it-up’ life.  We really only have one, so why not make it an all out adventure?

Follow her on twitter+instagram here: @jackicarr. 

Check out her blog here.

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  • Reply Dottie Wagner May 14, 2012 at 3:13 pm

    Thanks for posting this Jen! I loved it and am now following Jacki’s blog.

  • Reply barbarapotter May 14, 2012 at 4:41 pm

    Love meeting her.

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