Self Love. The Video.

I arrived at Jody’s and said “just make me look pretty.” she played with my hair and I left. Definitely an improvement.. It was only on the inside that I still had the twinges of ugliness….. Came home and just listened to your blog.. now I’m better. thanks, Love. I am aware of my self love/hate syndrome, and all my homeys reflect The Love..

Reblogged this on Wholeheartedness and commented:
Love it, Jen…

Jen, first of all, please, please, PLEASE keep vlogging! Second, I think many people are turned off by the term self-love because it sounds so narcissistic. For myself I have found the term self-compassion works much better. I have struggled with self-love for five decades but lately I have found true refuge in the work of Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer. I posted a list of thoughts tools and tactics for you and your readers here; https://www.living-business.co/self-compassion-resources/

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For many years I had an issue with myself. Maybe it all started when we moved. When I was 13 we moved about 200 miles away from the village I’d lived in all my life. Away from people I grew up with; people who knew me and had come to accept me for who and what I am.
Thrown into a new school with no friends, no social group. The new kid in school is always a target for mocking and general piss-ripping. The fat kid in class is also a prime target. Hey look, here comes a guy who fits both roles in one!
The kid with something strange about him is also a prime target. Hey look, this new fat kid has a speech impediment! Bonus!
What’s even better is the fact that new, fat, stuttering kid claims to have a girlfriend that no one has ever seen!

Looking back I can understand why; but it doesn’t mean i can forgive.

It took me a long time after leaving school to accept myself again. Now my close friends know and accept the way I am. I use humour as a self-defence mechanism; which is partly why I love things like social media because I don’t stutter when I type 😀

See, I’m now more than happy for people to laugh, as long as they’re laughing WITH me, not AT me 🙂

For many years I had an issue with myself. Maybe it all started when we moved. When I was 13 we moved about 200 miles away from the village I’d lived in all my life. Away from people I grew up with; people who knew me and had come to accept me for who and what I am.
Thrown into a new school with no friends, no social group. The new kid in school is always a target for mocking and general piss-ripping. The fat kid in class is also a prime target. Hey look, here comes a guy who fits both roles in one!
The kid with something strange about him is also a prime target. Hey look, this new fat kid has a speech impediment! Bonus!
What’s even better is the fact that new, fat, stuttering kid claims to have a girlfriend that no one has ever seen!

Looking back I can understand why; but it doesn’t mean i can forgive.

It took me a long time after leaving school to accept myself again. Now my close friends know and accept the way I am. I use humour as a self-defence mechanism; which is partly why I love things like social media because I don’t stutter when I type

See, I’m now more than happy for people to laugh, as long as they’re laughing WITH me, not AT me

Thank you for sharing this. I wrote about this on my blog yesterday and today I am seeing so many positive self love stories. https://aprojectforkindness.wordpress.com/2014/01/25/self-image/