Forgiveness leads to Perfection by R. Byron Hord
The first question anyone asks when they have gone through a “bad” experience (and please note that I use the term bad loosely, in the realm of the Divine, there are no “bad” experiences) as humans we go to the place of Why? Is it me? Am I getting punished? Why did the man upstairs decide to do this to me? I pray. I give back. I love people? I thought these were my friends? I thought she loved me?
I-Ching teaches all man that the only thing that is constant is change.
As we grow stronger in faith, grow stronger in our convictions, closer to the Source, things change in Divine Order. Sometimes this change could be sudden, other times this change is gradual. But the reality is that change is coming.
The test in life is whether or not we are truly able and/or ready to handle it.
Within our hearts we know what is right in our life and what is wrong.
You have a job that you hate and you are wishing it to be over.
You have a car that has been giving you problems for years and you are wishing it would disappear.
You are in a relationship that you know is not right for you.
You brood over these facts for days, weeks, months, years, and then… BAM!!! It happens suddenly.
Your boss that you’ve detested for years tells you that you are let go for no reason.
Your car gets totaled in a freak accident.
Your significant other leaves their Gmail open and you stumble on lustful emails to another person. You’re angry and immediately break up with them.
Now… how do we react in these situations?
Most of the time we enter into a mode of self-pity. We curse the situation. We curse the universe. We curse ourselves.
Instead we should be thankful and forgive.
Extractions from our lives are often blessings in disguise. The removal of waste is a part of our livelihood. It is part of what keeps us healthy.
Imagine if your body never dispelled waste. You would be poisoned every second of your life. Disease would engulf your body and you would inevitably perish.
So if that is the case of bodily waste, wouldn’t the same be true with spiritual “waste”? Wouldn’t our souls begin to deteriorate with the existence of a spiritual poison in our lives, in whatever form it manifested itself?
Many times we get comfortable with the pain, even as we continually ask for release from it.
We don’t even realize it, until that pain is gone… then we miss the poison that at some point began to pacify us.
We miss the fix.
As we gain closeness to the Divine, and our prayers become answered with higher frequency, we cannot dictate the what, when, where and how they will be answered.
We just have to embrace the answers however they come.
And when the pain and sadness is experienced after those poisons are finally extracted from your life, don’t curse it. Forgive and wish for the best for everyone and everything.
Then continue on your path to spiritual perfection.
R. Byron Hord is a Los Angeles based writer working in the industry for 10 plus years and is now owner of Uneq Interactive, whose mission is to Empower youth through interactivity.
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Great thoughts to ingest and even greater to live by.
FABULOUS post. These ideas are part of the foundation for the new “trauma anonymous” self help support group I am beginning to organize. It is a group based loosely on the 12 step principles and geared toward helping victims stop the cycle of re-traumatization they often experience throughout their lives that impedes recovery.
Thank you for sharing, Jen! And, thank you for writing, Byron!
Your words profess the heart of two of the most important lessons I learned from my mama: The only thing we can count on is change. And, This too shall pass.
Wisdom and insight so simple and profound.
Thank you for reminding all of us to allow ourselves a broader perspective and to appreciate the silver lining. 🙂
I love this concept. Letting go of the old brings us closer to walking the path of our authenticity. Something we all need to work on!