Daily Manifestation Challenge, Hearing Loss, Self Image

Who Are You? The DMC: Daily Manifestation Challenge.

May 30, 2012

Yesterday, a girl came up to me before my class at Equinox and told me that my sister Rachel’s blog is her saving grace; that she feels she is on the same journey as my sister. That she is, in fact, a little obsessed with 3 Words for 365. So am I, I thought.

So am I.

I felt proud, happier than if it was my own blog she was talking about (which, due to my hearing loss, I thought she was at first!)

Serendipitous too, as I had just started this guest post for my sister’s blog. It was a gentle nudge from the Universe to get writing.

The past few days I have been in my bed, with the blanket over my ice-pack covered head.

Sound fun?

No, I didn’t think so.

Unless you are a vampire.

I haven’t suffered from one of my migraines since last May. Then BAM! Without warning I got one on Tuesday night.

I felt the panic set in.

It makes it hard to talk. To see. To focus.

I slur a bit.

Like I said: not fun. Unless you’re drunk, then these symptoms might feel a bit more celebratory.

I cancelled my private yoga sessions on Wednesday and Thursday due to how bad I was feeling.

I called Frank Gjata, who has become my life coach and dear friend, and before I knew it, I was lying in the dark, my throbbing head screaming Get off the Effing Phone, while the rest of me was off having a profound life changing moment. (That’s Frank for you, folks.)

What he does.

LCM. Life. Changing. Moments.

He asked me: Why now? Why do you think your migraine is coming back now?

I wanted to yell I don’t know and I don’t care. I just want the pain to go away.

He asked me to describe what I was feeling.

I said: throbbing. All I could get out. One word. Throbbing.

He suggested how perfect that was because it was actually how I was living my life.

On, off.

On, off.

Stop, go.

Stop, go.

Why did he have to be so spot on?

I told him I was feeling guilty that I gave up so much work the last few days. I said ” Who am I to give up $200 an hour jobs? I didn’t even make 200 A DAY when I was waitressing?”

He says: Exactly. Who are you?

There it is. That question.

“Who are you?”

(Just for the record, I hate when things get turned on me.)

I got it. Here we are back to my favorite exercise in my workshop. The “I am ____” exercise.

I realized that I keep myself so busy and run down because there is this mantra running through my head. You know how I love a mantra.

The mantra is: Who am I to ever say no to something?

Who am I to ever allow myself to say No to something?

What a question!

How many times a day do we say yes to things because we don’t feel we deserve to say no? Or, because there might not be another time to say “yes”? Or because the only way we know how to live is to keep ourselves busy all the time? Or because we feel guilty?

The list is endless.

I decided to fill in my “I am ___.”

I am: a successful writer. I am: a loved yoga teacher. I am: financially abundant.

I am: powerful. I am: A connector. I am: healthy. I am: well.

Who are you?

Last week Frank helped me realize how I was speeding through life ( again with the on, off, stop, go) and that helped me stay not present.

In fact, I got a speeding ticket on my way to his house. Just for fun. So I had proof I was speeding.

It wasn’t that fun, to be honest. I cried.

He also helped me get clear on how my hearing loss, “my not being able to hear” was related to my “not being able to be here.”

I hope this doesn’t sound too airy fairy, too woo-woo.

But the reality is, I don’t care if it does.

I am: someone who is independent of the good opinion of other people.

Is my migraine gone? Mostly. I wouldn’t be able to write if it was fully with me. There is enough of a remnant though for me to remember who I am.

Enough of a subtle pulsing and slight nausea to have me stop and take a breath. To have me pause and ask myself “Do I want to say yes to this next thing?”

Because the truth is: I get to choose.

Somewhere along the line I forgot that I get to choose who I am.

I forgot who I was and thought I was someone who would always be broke and who always had to say yes to any and every job or offer that came my way.

I forgot that I am worth it, and I get to take care of myself, especially when I am not feeling well. Especially when I am laying in a dark cell with ice over my face. Especially then.

Keep going, don’t stop, keep pushing, it’s never enough.

These mantras are broken and no longer serve me so I am throwing them away with my migraine if you don’t mind.

I would love to hear what your mantra is.

Just who do you think you are?

Sorry it’s been so long since a DMC was out, folks! In the comment section below, answer the question: Who Are You?

***This originally appeared in my favorite blog 3wordsfor365.

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  • Reply Maria Bardet May 30, 2012 at 9:35 am

    Hi Jennifer! I just started reading your blog and love it. I’m currently in the process of a career change – going from a job in politics to following my true passion and becoming a Pilates instructor. With all the training and starting to teach, I realize that I’m often so self-critical and hard on myself. My mantra for right now is “just be ordinary”. I find that I am often trying so hard to be unique or perfect that I lose sight of my own voice. Being ordinary does not mean, don’t try hard, it just means be easy on yourself, be authentic and let your natural talents or visions guide you!

  • Reply limetreelife May 30, 2012 at 9:35 am

    Hi Jennifer! I just started reading your blog and love it. I’m currently in the process of a career change – going from a job in politics to following my true passion and becoming a Pilates instructor. With all the training and starting to teach, I realize that I’m often be so self-critical and hard on myself. My mantra for right now is “just be ordinary”. I find that I am often trying so hard to be unique or perfect that I lose sight of my own voice. Being ordinary does not mean, don’t try hard, it just means be easy on yourself and let your authenticity shine and your natural talents or visions guide you!

  • Reply barbarapotter May 30, 2012 at 10:18 am

    Thank you Love it.

  • Reply Jacqueline Hopper May 30, 2012 at 11:14 am

    Honestly, I dont know. For the past 6 months I have been on my way to figuring it out though. To figure out who I am and what I am suppose to contribute to life! Im inspired by your writing and look forward to figuring it all out for myself :0)

  • Reply Sabrina at MyMiBoSo May 30, 2012 at 12:08 pm

    Oh how I’ve missed your challenges! So much love to you right now as your body teaches your mind about slowing down and looking inward (literally forcing you to lie down).

    I am…a perfect and radiant being who forgets that from time to time and needs reminders from those carrying the light.

    Thank YOU my dear for carrying the light – for myself and for so many others.

  • Reply allison May 30, 2012 at 9:12 pm

    Thank you! I’ve been sharing that migraine along with the same internal struggle as of late! As a yoga teacher, holistic health counselor and writer, I’m always in the mode of doing- to give, learn and share more. This week has been full of wake up calls about slowing down and choosing ME. So right now, my mantra is a simple “Yesss” to me.

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