Are You Willing To Surrender When Necessary?
I finally made a video again! Today’s vlog is on Surrender. Such a beautiful word, isn’t it?
Where can you surrender in your life? Where can you stop fighting or pushing?
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Surrendering has always been difficult for me. In fact, as I was growing up, Dad often told me, “Pick your battles wisely. There are those you fight because you have to — because it’s simply the right thing to do. There are those you fight because you know you have a chance to win. And there are those you fight when maybe it would be better to simply surrender and learn from what is inevitable.”
Unfortunately, I still find myself fighting the inevitable and doing battle with those who really don’t matter. Recently, in an online discussion board, we were asked to name our favorite poet and explain our choice. I said that I’m my favorite poet because I don’t feel I can expect others to love my work unless I believe in it first.
Well, the trolls started attacking, complaining that my response was “tacky and uninformed.” There was a time when that would have really bothered me (okay, on the right day if I were in a different mood, it probably would have bothered me then, too). Instead of fighting with them, I simply stepped out of the discussion and went on to do other things. After all, I don’t really even know who those people are, so why should I waste time doing battle with them.
In a sense, I surrendered to the fact that nothing I could say would appease their need to criticize and complain. In fact, anything I said would have simply enraged them more. Also, their opinion of me has absolutely no power over me that I don’t give them, and by surrendering and walking away, I robbed them of their power to hurt me. Finally, I surrendered to the fact that I am who and what I am, and I treasure the creative part of me enough to say, “Yes, I am my favorite poet!”